Dad, comforting Dylan by napping in the room (and risking getting malaria). Dylan kicked Wilbur, the pig, out of his bed. |
Dylan is a recovering binky-aholic. Here is his story.
About 100 days ago, on Christmas Eve, Dylan got into his pajamas
and crawled under his covers. He had visions of sugar plums dancing in his
head. He knew Santa would come if he fell asleep, so he kissed Mum and Dad good
night, said ‘bonne nuit’ to Laird, and then…. for the last time in his life….
put his binky in his mouth.
What followed was a sound sleep, and a tearful 5 am start to
Christmas Day, when he realised that Santa – that hulking, bearded man in the
red suit – had taken away all of his binkies.
Every morning, around 5 am, Dylan often stirs as the Call to
Prayer echoes throughout our neighborhood.
On this particular Christmas morning, Dylan stirred and looked for his
beloved binkie to lull him back to sleep. Mom and Dad were very strict about his beloved binkie; he was only allowed to use the pacifier at nap-time and bed-time in his bed.
'Biiiiiiiiiiinnnnkkkkiiiieeeeeee', we heard on the
monitor. Mom ran in quickly and consoled
him. Dylan was trying to be so brave and
not cry as we reminded him of why Santa had taken his binkies.
The story we told was that Santa needed to redistribute the
binkies to babies all around the world, and that, in exchange, he left behind a
beautiful baby pig for Dylan to hug in his bed. (Laird, who had given up his
binkies willingly a year-and-a-half earlier, got a fuzzy rabbit for supporting
Dylan in this trying time.) We thought
it was a lovely way to embrace the season of giving.
At 5 am, Mom and Dad consoled Dylan repeatedly. His lip quivered and his eyes were full of
tears that he refused to let fall. He
was trying to be strong but he was in such pain inside.
'Dylan', Mom whispered, 'it's okay to cry if you feel
sad. Let it out my angel.' As soon as Mom said that, Dylan let the tears
free. He sobbed for a good 15 minutes while
laying on Mama's chest. Mom and Dad too,
shed tears along with him, as we both second guessed our decision to take his binkies
away.
Dylan loved his pig, but he had trouble grasping the fact
that his binkies were gone forever. It seemed so final. He also loved Santa,
but had trouble understanding why he would take all his binkies and make him
feel bad.
“Santa gives us presents at Christmas when we are good, but
he also teaches us how to give. Your binkies are making millions of babies
happy, all around the world,” Mum and Dad reminded Dylan.
It all hit home again at nap time. Dylan crawled under his
covers. He hugged his pig, but had no binky. His face was the picture of
sadness, but he held it together. He looked at Dad and said, “I want to give
back the pig to Santa and have my binkies,” his voice cracking, the corners of
his mouth turning down. His chin quivered.
Dad felt like his heart was being crushed. “It will be okay,
Dylan. Your pig will take care of you. Your binkies are gone, but they are
making babies happy, all around the world.” Dylan rolled over and then quietly,
unable to hold it back, started to cry.
This was the low point. Dad napped in the room on the floor with
Laird and Dylan, which made Dylan feel a little bit better. He eventually fell
asleep. Mum and Dad worried that night that they had made a mistake – that they
had ruined Dylan’s image of Santa and scarred him for life. Maybe they should
have waited another month. And what’s the big problem with binkies anyway, if
they make your child happy?
But the next day, it was less painful, and by New Year's,
just 6 days and nights later, Dylan had stopped asking about his binkies. He
still loved Santa, and he loved his pig. And hopefully, he seemed to feel good
that millions of babies were happy, all over the world. More and more, Dylan
seems to enjoy giving things to people, like rocks, or tiny pieces of his food.
A few days ago, while hanging out on the beach, Dylan asked
Mum “What’s that thing, Momma?” He was pointing at a binky, planted firmly in
the mouth of a little girl.